Dore uburyo bwiza wakoresha mu gihe cyo gutera akabariro

Nyuma yo kubona ibyifuzo by’abakunzi bacu badusaba ko twazabereka uburyo bwiza umugabo yakoramo imibonano mpuzabitsina maze umugore we akanezerwa, twubahirije ibyifuzo byanyu tubahitiramo uburyo 5 bwiza wayikoramo ukizihirwa ariko niba uziko uri munsi y’imyaka 18 ubu buryo ntabwo bukureba.

Mbere na mbere ijya kurisha ihera ku rugo bityo rero mbere y’igikorwa cy’imibonano mpuza bitsina, abagiye kuyikora bagomba kubanza gutegurana byibuza mu gihe kingana n’iminota15.

Ikindi kandi bikabanzirizwa n’amagambo meza yuje ubwuzu n’akanyamuneza.

Hirya no hino ku isi ingo nyinshi zisenwa n’intege nke zo mu buriri, ahanini benezo
bakagaragara nk’ibigwari ku buryo zirara zishya bwacya zikaryama aho umugabo arara ukwe n’umugore akarara wenyine.

Igikorwa cy’imibonano gishobora guhera ahantu hatandukanye wenda nk’umugabo ari nko ku kazi mu gihe umugore we ari mu rugo yashyika mu rugo akakiranwa akanyamuneza.

Aha ndashaka kukubwiza ukuri ko iki gikorwa kitaba kiza cyatangijwe n’intonganya mbere y’uko mwisanga mu gikorwa.

1. Ubu buryo burasaba ngo umugore aryame hasi agaramye maze umugabo na we
amupfukame hagati y’amaguru nuko umugore afate amaguru ye ayashyire ku matako
y’umugabo, umugore narangiza aze noneho akwinjiremo neza.

Ubu buryo buzatuma umugore aryoherwa ndetse n’umugabo yumve ko afite umugore neza na we bimutere ku ryoherwa.

Ubu buryo kandi buzafasha igitsina cy’umugabo kwinjira neza cyose mu gitsina cy’umugore ku buryo kizaba kisanzuye mu gukora ibyo umugabo ashaka mu gitsina cy’umugore.

2. Ubu buryo bwo busaba ko umugore aryama ku buriri yubitse inda ariko akibuka kuzamura ikibuno ho gatoya ndetse anatandaraze ho gato, ubwo umugabo na we icyo azakora azapfukama maze yinjize igitsina cye mu cy’umugore bitamugoye.

Ubu buryo buzatuma umugore aryoherwa ndetse atanavunika kuko imibiri iba yegeranye cyane, ubu buryo kandi waba ufite n’igitsina gito bugeregeza gutuma ushimisha umugore wawe.

3. Ubu buryo bwo noneho busaba ko umugore yunama ku gitanda, ubwo ni ukuvuga ngo agashinga amavi ku gitanda inkokora akaba arizo afatisha hasi umutwe nawo akawushyira hasi maze ikibuno kikajya inyuma, icyo gihe ni bwo igitsina cy’umugore kizaba cyaje inyuma.

Ubwo umugabo na we icyo azakora nta kindi ni uguturuka inyuma maze agasa nusutarara maze akinjizamo igitsina cye mu cy’umugore, ubu buryo buzafasha umugabo kwinjiza igitsina cye mu cy’umugore uko abyifuza kose kuko azaba akireba neza maze bimufashe no kuruhura umutwe we yewe n’umugore azaryoherwa kuko umugabo azaba uri gukora mu mpande zose z’igitsina. Ubu buryo buzwi nko guhenesha.

4. Ubu buryo bwo nubwo budakundwa gukorwa n’abantu ariko ni bwiza, ubu buryo bwo busaba ko umugore n’umugabo bahagarara maze umugore akazamura akaguru ke akagashira ku kibuno cy’umugabo ubwo umugabo na we agahita agafata maze akagatanyura.

Umugabo na we icyo agomba gukora nta kindi ni uguhita yinjira hagati y’ibibero by’umugore ubundi agahita ashyira igitsina cye aho cyabugenewe, ubu buryo buzabafasha mwembi gukora imibonano mpuzabitsina murebana amaso ku maso maze mubone n’uburyo musangira uburyohe yewe n’umugabo bizamufasha kwisanzura ku mukunzi we neza umubiri ku mubiri.

5. Ubu buryo bwo ni bwiza cyane, busaba ko umugabo aryama agaramye maze umugore na we akaza akamupfukama hejuru maze akinjiza igitsina cy’umugabo mu cye.

Umugabo asabwa gukoresha igice cye cyo hasi ari nako umugore azamuka buri uko umugabo amuzamuye na we akiyoroshya, ndetse byagera na hagati umugabo akarekera noneho ibintu byose umugore akaba ari we ubyikorera ikindi kandi umugore akazajya anyuzamo akanyonga ikibuno kugira ngo igitsina cy’umugabo gikore mu mpande zose z’igitsina cy’umugore.

Mu gihe kandi umugore ari kubikora umugabo na none asabwa gufatisha ibiganza bye ku mabuno yombi y’umufasha we hanyuma akajya ayafataho maze akajya ayazunguza. Ubu buryo buzwi nko kunyonga.

Mu gihe cyo gutera akabariro mwese musabwe kujya mukora koranaho kugira ngo ubyutse bwa bushake bw’umubiri uko ubikora ari nako mutakana amazina y’ibihozo n’ibisingizo.

Mugabo nawe mugore nta muntu wundi wakubakira urugo atari wowe wabigizemo uruhare ikindi kandi si byiza kubona ikosa ku wo mwagiranye imishyikirano ngo uri muhishe kandi ukirinda guhora umucunaguza ko ntacyo azi.

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